Kiera in a forest glade From time immemorial forest glades have been revered as spiritual, sacred places. Places of healing and refuge. The quiet picture of Kiera was taken close to the time of Her Majesty’s passing. Hence the somber poem gifted to us by Kiera. But the poem is underpinned with hope and joy, the same hope Kiera’s wishes for us as she approaches “the Bar”.
A throwaway line is a comment or statement that is made in a casual, offhand manner and considered unimportant or insignificant. It is often used to transition to a different topic or to make a quick point without elaborating on it.
Why is it dangerous?
A throwaway line can be dangerous because it can be misinterpreted or taken out of context, leading to misunderstandings or conflicts. It can also be used to downplay important issues or dismiss someone’s thoughts or feelings, which can be hurtful and damaging to relationships. In some cases, throwaway lines can be used to spread false or misleading information, which can cause harm to individuals or society as a whole. Therefore, it’s important to be mindful of the words we use and the impact they may have on others.
JB: If you are forced into using a throwaway line, do not make a general statement like “All lions are dangerous”. Rather say “Some lions are dangerous”.
What an inspiration dear Kiera is to us all. What a lesson she has gifted us with that love lasts for ever and enfolds us all. Anna has given me permission to post the latest news about Kiera and to post Kiera’s most recent poem to us all. The whole creation groans and awaits redemption. Redemption will come for the whole of creation. That is for certain. Please scroll down right to the poem.
Anna’s message and pictures and Kiera’s poem. What a beautiful gift and inspiration….
Re yesterday’s post and Kiera’s poem….she is very quiet and breathless this morning but still with us. Thankyou all for your wonderfully supportive comments. We can feel all the love coming our way and I am convinced it helps. Xx
Kiera speaks again….. It seems she is now very consciously preparing for her transition….
Remember me on this day Please take note of what I say… I can no longer manage walks But still enjoy our little talks… Sitting now by the fire I wish to share what will inspire…. CHERISH IN NATURE ALL YOU SEE EVERY FLOWER AND EVERY TREE ALL THE CREATURES LARGE AND SMALL GIVE YOUR LOVE TO THEM ALL. Then wait and see How you will be….
And when at last, I have ‘passed’ That sudden tap on your face.. Those special arms that embrace Will be Nature’s Blessing… Her healing caressing…. And in the timeless zone of mist, I will come and share a kiss.. I’ll wing my way o’er cloud and sea And you’ll recognize its me. For this is knowledge all must know Rainbow Bridge goes to AND fro.
NB: This article has been created using Artificial Intelligence (AI) to answer my questions. The article is for information purposes only. If you have mental or psychological problems you must consult a medical professional.
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What is CBT?
CBT stands for cognitive-behavioral therapy. It is a type of psychotherapy that focuses on the relationship between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The goal of CBT is to help individuals identify and change negative patterns of thinking and behavior in order to improve their emotional well-being and ability to function in daily life. CBT is often used to treat a wide range of mental health conditions, including depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
How does CBT work?
CBT works by helping individuals identify and change negative patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. The therapy is based on the idea that our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are interconnected, and that negative thoughts and beliefs can lead to negative emotions and behaviors.
CBT typically includes several key components:
Identification of negative thoughts and beliefs: The therapist will help the individual identify negative thoughts and beliefs that are related to their problem.
Evaluation of evidence: The therapist will help the individual evaluate the evidence for and against these thoughts and beliefs.
Identification of the relationship between thoughts, feelings and behaviors: The therapist will help the individual identify the relationship between their negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
Development of new thoughts, feelings and behaviors: The therapist will help the individual develop new, more positive thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
Practice: The individual will practice the new thoughts, feelings and behaviors in therapy sessions, and then continue to practice them in real-life situations.
CBT can be done on a one-on-one basis or in a group setting and usually last for a specific period of time, usually around 12-20 sessions.
How does a belief system work with CBT?
In CBT, belief systems refer to the set of beliefs, values, and assumptions that an individual holds about themselves, others, and the world around them. These beliefs can shape an individual’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and can have a significant impact on their emotional well-being.
CBT focuses on helping individuals identify and change negative or unrealistic beliefs that are contributing to their emotional distress. The therapist will work with the individual to identify their belief systems and evaluate the evidence for and against these beliefs.
For example, if an individual has the belief that “I am not good enough”, the therapist will help them evaluate the evidence for and against this belief. The therapist may help the individual to see that this belief is not entirely true and that there is evidence to the contrary, such as feedback from others, past successes, or personal accomplishments.
Once the individual has a more accurate and balanced understanding of their beliefs, the therapist will help them develop new, more positive and realistic beliefs. These new beliefs will be more in line with the individual’s values and goals, and will help them to think, feel, and behave in more positive ways.
The therapist will also help the individual to practice these new beliefs in therapy sessions, and then continue to practice them in real-life situations. This will help them to build new patterns of thinking and behavior that support their emotional well-being.
Is seeking evidence important in CBT?
Yes, seeking evidence is an important aspect of CBT. It is a key component of the cognitive part of CBT, which focuses on identifying and changing negative or unrealistic thoughts. The idea is that by seeking evidence for and against one’s thoughts, beliefs, and assumptions, an individual can gain a more accurate and balanced understanding of the situation, which can help to reduce emotional distress.
The therapist will help the individual to examine the evidence for and against their thoughts, beliefs and assumptions. This process is called cognitive restructuring and it allows the individual to evaluate the evidence for and against their negative thoughts, beliefs and assumptions, to identify any errors in thinking and to challenge any negative thoughts that are not supported by the evidence.
For example, an individual might believe that they are not smart enough to be successful in their career. The therapist will help the individual to evaluate the evidence for and against this belief by looking at past successes, feedback from others, and any other relevant information. By examining the evidence objectively, the individual may begin to see that this belief is not entirely accurate and that there are other factors that contribute to their success.
By seeking evidence, an individual can gain a more accurate and balanced understanding of the situation, which can help to reduce emotional distress and improve overall well-being. It is an important step in the process of changing negative patterns of thinking and behavior.
Can self talk be used to aid cognitive restructuring?
Yes, self-talk can be used to aid cognitive restructuring in CBT. Self-talk refers to the internal dialogue that we have with ourselves, and it can have a significant impact on our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. In CBT, self-talk is often used as a tool to help individuals identify and change negative patterns of thinking.
When an individual engages in negative self-talk, it can reinforce negative thoughts and beliefs, which can lead to negative emotions and behaviors. For example, if an individual tells themselves “I can’t do this”, it can create feelings of self-doubt and discourage them from attempting a task.
Cognitive restructuring in CBT helps to identify and change negative self-talk. The therapist will help the individual to become aware of their self-talk and to evaluate the evidence for and against their negative thoughts. Once the individual has a more accurate and balanced understanding of the situation, the therapist will help them develop new, more positive self-talk.
For example, instead of telling themselves “I can’t do this”, the individual might tell themselves “I can do this, and I will give it my best shot.” This new self-talk is more positive, realistic and empowering.
Self-talk can also be used as a tool for maintenance of positive changes after the therapy sessions are over. By regularly monitoring and challenging negative self-talk and replacing it with positive self-talk, an individual can maintain the positive changes they have made in therapy and continue to improve their emotional well-being.
So, negative self talk must not only be challenged, it must be replaced with positive self talk?>
Yes, that is correct. Negative self-talk can be detrimental to an individual’s emotional well-being, so it is important to challenge and replace it with positive self-talk in order to improve overall well-being.
Challenging negative self-talk involves examining the evidence for and against it, as well as identifying any errors in thinking. This helps the individual to gain a more accurate and balanced understanding of the situation.
Replacing negative self-talk with positive self-talk is an important step in the process of changing negative patterns of thinking and behavior. Positive self-talk can help to build self-confidence, reduce stress, and improve overall well-being. It can also be used as a tool for maintaining the positive changes made during therapy, so that the individual can continue to improve their emotional well-being after the therapy sessions are over.
It is important to note that it might take some time and practice to change negative self-talk habits, but as the individual becomes more aware of their self-talk and learns to challenge and replace negative thoughts with positive ones, it will become more natural and it will become a part of the daily routine.
Is self talk normal?
Yes, self-talk is a normal and natural part of human experience. It refers to the internal dialogue that we have with ourselves, and it can take the form of thoughts, images, or words. Self-talk can be both conscious and unconscious, and it can happen at any time, whether we are awake or asleep.
Everyone engages in self-talk to some degree, and it can serve many different functions. It can help us to process information, make decisions, and plan for the future. It can also be used as a tool for self-reflection, self-evaluation and self-motivation. Self-talk can be positive and negative, it can be self-encouraging or self-critical.
It is important to be aware of our self-talk, and to try to maintain a balance between positive and negative self-talk. Negative self-talk can have a detrimental effect on our emotional well-being and can lead to negative emotions and behaviors, while positive self-talk can help to build self-confidence, reduce stress, and improve overall well-being.
In summary, self-talk is normal and it plays an important role in our emotional well-being. It’s important to be aware of it and to strive for a balance between positive and negative self-talk.
“The shortest essay in the recently rereleased collection, Confessions of a Heretic, is entitled “Effing the Ineffable.” In it, the late Roger Scruton speaks of the brief and indescribable glimpses we human beings are sometimes afforded of a world of meaning that seems to exist on a plane just outside of our reach. In these moments arising from contemplation or from the experience of great beauty, we sense that the deep mysteries of existence are somehow brought before our eyes, but they still defy our attempt at understanding. “When they occur it is as though, on the winding ill-lit stairway of our life, we suddenly come across a window, through which we catch sight of another and brighter world—a world to which we belong but which we cannot enter.””
Once upon a time, there was a wise old owl named Mary who lived in Richmond Park in London. One day, Mary gathered the rabbit family and explained to them the importance of the “golden rule.”
Mary told them that the golden rule is a principle that says “Treat others the way you would like to be treated.” She said that this is important because it means being kind, respectful, and fair to others.
She also added that when we treat others the way we would like to be treated, it makes everyone feel good and happy. And when we don’t follow the golden rule, it can cause problems and fights.
The rabbits listened to Mary and they understood the importance of following the golden rule. They realized that by treating others with kindness and respect, they could make the whole community a better and happier place. From that day on, the rabbits always followed the golden rule and lived in peace and harmony with the other animals in Richmond Park.
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