I was phoned today from halfway across the world by someone who had just lost a loyal friend. He said he felt he had lost part of himself. After telling him how sorry I was I said I could do no more than read to him the words of John Donne who was Dean of St. Paul’s Cathedral in London from 1621 to 1631. Please listen. You may have to turn up the volume. Thank you.
You and I don’t just exist. We are always deciding what our existence will be and what we will become the next moment. Why is this true for me and for you? Why is it true for all people? The reason is because we all have free will. As Victor Frankl wrote: “…every human being has the freedom to change at any instant.” The answer to the question? We each decide. No buck passing!
“Be clear that confidence and self-esteem are not the same. Self-esteem refers to general feelings about yourself; confidence refers to your belief and feel in that you can perform a task successfully.” Hank Weisenger, Famous psychologist, writer and corporate adviser. Link to source
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My takeaway from this valuable insight from Psychologist Weisenger? Confidence is in relation to getting a job done. So, how do you develop strong confidence? There is only one way. Find out what you must do to complete the job successfully, Then, work hard to develop the required level of competence. Only then will genuine confidence begin to emerge. As the famous golfer Ben Hogan apparently said: “The secret is in the dirt”.
Self-esteem alone will not enable anyone to fly a Jumbo Jet from London to New York. Confidence to fly across the Atlantic only comes from rigorous training and lots of hard work. There is no short cut to genuine competence which leads to genuine confidence.
Why is there a feeling that things are falling apart in these uncertain times? Do we sense that anarchy is increasingly eroding law and order? What has happened to ethics? Is there a centre that is falling apart? What is that centre? What is your centre? What is my centre?
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“Turning and turning in the widening gyre The falcon cannot hear the falconer; Things fall apart; the centre cannot hold; Mere anarchy is loosed upon the world, The blood-dimmed tide is loosed, and everywhere The ceremony of innocence is drowned; The best lack all conviction, while the worst Are full of passionate intensity.”
Opening to The Second Coming – W. B. Yeats, 1865 – 1939
Do not be afraid of Christ! He takes nothing away, and he gives you everything. When we give ourselves to him, we receive a hundredfold in return. Yes, open, open wide the doors to Christ—and you will find true life. Amen
Pope Emeritus Joseph Ratzinger (Benedict XVI) at the start of his pontificate
Sincere Apology: My earlier post referred to Pope Emeritus Joseph Ratzinger as “late”. This in incorrect.