“Be clear that confidence and self-esteem are not the same. Self-esteem refers to general feelings about yourself; confidence refers to your belief and feel in that you can perform a task successfully.” Hank Weisenger, Famous psychologist, writer and corporate adviser. Link to source
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My takeaway from this valuable insight from Psychologist Weisenger? Confidence is in relation to getting a job done. So, how do you develop strong confidence? There is only one way. Find out what you must do to complete the job successfully, Then, work hard to develop the required level of competence. Only then will genuine confidence begin to emerge. As the famous golfer Ben Hogan apparently said: “The secret is in the dirt”.
Self-esteem alone will not enable anyone to fly a Jumbo Jet from London to New York. Confidence to fly across the Atlantic only comes from rigorous training and lots of hard work. There is no short cut to genuine competence which leads to genuine confidence.
Calling all parents. Listen to this TED Talk if you want to learn how to really help your child who is struggling at school. The talk is not about how to make sure your child gets an “A” every time. You will learn how to give your child something much more valuable which will last a lifetime. To see the TED Talk Click here.
The TED talk is by Dr. Carol Dweck, an American Psychologist and Professor of Psychology at Stanford in the United States.
Has 2020 been a year in which your basic assumptions have been challenged? Have your basic assumptions changed about yourself and the planet in which we live? My guess is they have – for you and for millions of people all over the world. Are you disturbed by what has happened in 2020? Should you be?
Dr. Ian McCallum of Port Elizabeth, South Africa has written about these challenges to our assumptions in a very important “must read” article.
Dr. McCallum is a psychiatrist, psychologist, award winning author and poet. He is an adjunct professor at the Nelson Mandela Graduate School of Business in Port Elizabeth. He is also an honorary lecturer in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Cape Town. In his youth he was a Springbok Rugby player (he represented South Africa).
Another masterclass by our two good friends who have many years experience producing meals “off the grid” in the African Bush (Addo). This time it is cooking ribeye steak using a Cobb gas cooker. No coals to clean up. Instant heat. A mouth watering result!
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Thanks again to our two good and very “bush smart” friends.
Take a deep breath and look at these two pictures. They were taken at the North Rim of the Grand canyon. In the top picture do you see the two people? In the bottom picture do you see the girl sitting on the edge of the void? The canyon goes straight down beneath her. It is only my opinion, but in my view people should never, ever take such risks. As I was taking the bottom picture of the girl on the edge people were shouting at her, urging her to go back. Eventually she managed to slide backwards away from the slippery, sandy edge. Fortunately, nobody fell. Thank goodness.
As stated in Part 1, we live in dangerous times. Covid19 has spread its lethal tentacles all over the world. It has silently crept in the hovels of the poor and into the mansions of the rich, powerful and famous. The virus is not a respecter of persons. Fear abounds. None can escape the touch of its cold hand.
How should a Christian deal with fear in “Seasons of Danger”? The advice the Puritan John Flavel (1628-1691) gave to Christians in England long ago, is relevant today.
Two points that Flavel makes are:
Some fear is reasonable. He calls this “cautional preventative fear”. This is fear that”opens our eyes” to foresee danger and take reasonable steps to protect ourselves.
Another kind of fear is not reasonable.This kind of fear “invades the heart” and unfits the heart for duty”. It “distracts”, It “drives men upon unlawful means and brings a snare with it”. In other words it can lead to sin.
What is this unreasonable fear about which Flavel warns? It is “the fear of diffidence” which is fear arising out of our failure to trust God in dangerous situations, one of which is this pandemic.
We must guard against this at all costs.
How to guard against unreasonable fear
Trust fully in God in all things and at all times.
Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I have called thee by thy name; thou art mine.When thou passest through the waters, I will be with thee; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow thee: when thou walkest through the fire, thou shalt not be burned; neither shall the flame kindle upon thee. Nothing, including COVID19 can separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
We live in dangerous times. Covid19 has spread its lethal tentacles all over the world. It has silently crept in the hovels of the poor and into the mansions of the rich, powerful and famous. The virus is not a respecter of persons. Fear abounds. None can escape the touch of its cold hand.
How should a Christian live in “Seasons of Danger”? The advice the Puritan John Flavel (1628-1691) gave to Christians in England long ago, is relevant today. Here is just a snippet of that advice.
Understand that everything is in the hand of God. Get this thought well settled in your heart and it will “guard you against slavish fears.”
Remember that God, in whose hands you are, is your Father. Christ is King and Supreme Lord. You are the apple of His eye. He loves you most tenderly. Understand this and you will quickly say, “Return unto your rest, O my soul.”
You will soon sing “in the midst of danger, “The Lord is King of all the earth, sing praise with understanding.”