Learn the lesson of the wagtail. Here in Port Elizabeth, South Africa, we fed a wag tail who came into our kitchen and ate grated cheese that we put on the floor. She also carried away come of the cheese to feed her young chicks. She fed herself first so she could continue to feed her young.
If we want to help others we must see to our own needs (not wants) first. Only then will we be able to continue to help others.
P.S. Perhaps it was the dad!
Below is a picture of the wagtail mother feeding her baby chicks. It is a still picture from a video I took with my iPhone8+